Sexuality and Real Women -Be Proud of Your Curves

If you ask any woman if there is something about her body she would like to change you will get answers galore!Women say:“I’d like-a smaller butt; bigger breasts; tighter abs; longer legs, a thinner waist, etc., etc.”But the biggest complaint that a lot of women have is that they feel “too fat.” They say they are embarrassed to have sex with their husbands. Their sex drive is down because of their body-image. They don’t like their “curves” which they erroneously see as fat. The interesting thing in this situation is that if you ask the husbands if there is anything they would like to change about their wives, the answers have nothing whatsoever to do with her body!Men say:“I wish she was more understanding; had more time for me; was willing to travel to an exotic location for vacation; watched sports with me; etc., etc.” Most men have no complaints about their wives physical attributes.So why are women so disparaging of their own bodies? A lot of it has to do with the images we see in the print media and on TV today that project “what women should look like.” While some women laugh at the “perfect” female form represented this way, a surprising number of women feel physically inadequate because of this misrepresentation. I am surprised that a great deal of my mail comes from women who are in despair because they have gained a little weight since getting married or having children. Unfortunately they see their small weight gain as a deformity that keeps them from being attractive. This attitude is self-defeating and harmful not only to a person’s self-esteem, but to a marital relationship. Attitude has an enormous impact on how we approach our lives. If we think we look good, we feel good and we carry ourselves with confidence. Feeling attractive makes us feel “worthy” of the good things in life and when we feel worthy we treat not only others but ourselves much better.There are women who see extra pounds and curves as detracting from their sex appeal. Actually the opposite is more likely true; it adds to their sexuality. Unless you have a real idiot for a husband who thinks all women should look like the models in a Victoria’s Secret catalogue, you will find that men see a fullness of figure on their wives as beautiful. Look at women like Catherine Zeta-Jones and Oprah Winfrey; gorgeous curves and attractive women. Michael Douglas and Stedman Graham certainly appreciate these real women. Nigella Lawson and Kate Winslet have also made curves sexy and beautiful. Pictures of women from the 1950’s show well-endowed and sexy bodies. Visit a museum and look at any Italian, Greek, or French sculptures and paintings of women-breathtakingly beautiful, all of them. I know of two women who “have a little something extra” and both of these women are an inspiration to me. One person is a professional woman who runs a decorating business. She is a size 14, dresses beautifully, always has her hair and nails done, and is intelligent and successful. Her husband says he loves her not only for her beauty but because of her attitude about life. She cares for herself and that care carries over to everything and everyone in her life. She enjoys her life. When I asked her if there was anything she would like to change about herself she replied that she wished she hadn’t worried so much about her weight when she was younger. Beauty she says, comes in all sizes.The other woman is a math teacher who has one of the busiest schedules I know. She also teaches tango classes on weekends. She says that, like many women, she would like to drop 10 pounds or so but it doesn’t mean enough to her to try. Like my other idol she is impeccably groomed and full of life. Going out with her and her fiancé for dinner is a joy because she enjoys the meal and doesn’t worry about the calories. “I like being volumptuous,” she says. “I feel sexy and pretty.”Too many women equate weight with being sloppy. That is definitely not true. Unless you are suffering from morbid obesity, (weight of over one hundred extra pounds), and it is endangering your health and causing you to be incapacitated and unable to take care of yourself, a few extra pounds are no big deal. Keeping yourself attractive and well-groomed is important for your own image and for your husband’s eyes.Real women are a healthy weight and not those of the dreaded antiquated weight charts from insurance statistics. I do not know anyone who is 5’8” and weighs 110.Be realistic. Really look at yourself and see the sexy woman in you. Dress with care, take good care of yourself, and walk with attitude. Real women are claiming their rightful place. Curvy and sexy is in!!Sacred Jude in My life, Miracles Abound!!

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